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There IS more to this Criminal Custodial Interference-thing

This seems to be the week for me to bite off my tongue in passing along information.  As you may recall from a previous post regarding the use of police to enforce a visitation order, I stated that you cannot have law enforcement enforce your civil order, unless the Order specifically said so.


That IS true.  But there’s more to this story than that.  There is such a thing as criminal custodial interference.  In Utah, statute that describes this and states what the class of crime it is is found at U.C.A. § 76-5-303.  It is a CRIME in Utah to intentionally interfere with the custodial rights of another parent who has been awarded parent-time under a civil court order.  This means that if you’re a jerk and keep your ex (spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend) from seeing your kid(s) when it’s his or her turn under the Order, you can be charged with a crime.  The statute is located here:  http://le.utah.gov/~code/TITLE76/htm/76_05_030300.htm.

The purpose of this statute is to act as a sufficient deterrent, as well as a club, to prevent one parent from essentially eliminating the other from the child’s life.  You’ll note that it’s actually a 3rd degree felony to remove the child from the state while doing this rotten thing to your ex.  It’s a big deal.  BUT. . .

And this is a big BUT, in all-caps:  there is an intent element to this statute.  That means that just because the kid doesn’t want to go with the other parent, and refuses to do so, you are not going to be convicted of custodial interference.

Okay, so you can't MAKE her go, but you've got to give it your best effort.

The statute specifically states, “with the intent to interfere with the custody of the child…”.  You have to INTEND

to keep the kid from the other parent.  Meaning, “I don’t want you to have the kids, so I’m taking him away, and not giving him to you.”  NOT, “My 16-year-old daughter really doesn’t like you, and the only way to get her to go with you is to bodily put her in your car.”  Not the same things.  And the second one is not something that can get you charged with criminal custodial interference.

All that said, it is your JOB as a parent of your child to encourage a positive relationship with the other parent, even if you don’t like him/her, even if you think he/she is a total jackass, even if you hate his/her new spouse.  It is not your job to make your kid’s life harder by undermining the other parent.  So be proactive in encouraging that 16-year old to go with that parent she doesn’t particularly like.  You do your best.  Sincerely.  Even when it’s hard (and believe me, it can be HARD sometimes.)  That’s all that can be expected.

Just don’t be a jerk.

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  1. b.
    October 9, 2011 at 11:47 am | #1

    I stumbled upon this blog while researching utah law on older children having to choose which parent to live with in a divorce.

    Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom. It’s an amazing gift at a crucial time in my life.

  2. CWoman
    January 10, 2014 at 4:39 pm | #2

    My jerk, told me “You’re a dead woman, You’re dead!” when trying to beg for Christmas visitation and I took a friend with me to the pick up spot to ensure I wasn’t shot dead. When I got home I called police and told them what he said and asked for a protective order, and they didn’t budge. He’s already got a child abuse charge from before, now he’s threatening my life…..and you want me to “answer the door?” I told them not as long as he’s in sight…he’s the one I asked for a restraining order for….so they left and came back later with a writ of assistance, (mind you he kidnapped the child in 2006—interstate), so we’ll see, now I just fear for my son.

    • January 13, 2014 at 1:31 pm | #3

      PLEASE REMEMBER–the information contained in the blog posts addresses the NORMAL situations. If you have a dangerous situation with your kids, if you fear for your life, obviously you would be justified in acting accordingly. I don’t want ANYONE to answer the door to someone who has threatened to kill them!

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